Here is my situation:
I basically have two critique groups. One is a group of like genre writers. All are very good at what they do, and give me great feed back. Whether I want it or not, ha, no I do want it. The other is a group of average readers, you know, like I used to be. The ones that enjoy the book, and do not care if you did not foreshadow a cliche enough, or something like that.
The thing is; Who am I writing for now? Both groups are giving me great feedback. Overall both are positive (the plain reader is far more positive). The items that get pointed out that need to be fixed are fixed, but when I go back more issues are found.
When do I stop?
I am starting to think I need to stop with the other writers. This draft is as close as I feel I need to get to my final (after my copy editor checks it over), but every one finds something wrong. No that is not right, something they would do different.
The straight reader group is getting anxious, they want the final product (as do I).
So as writers when do we politely say, Thanks for the editing advice, but I know it's not perfect, but I want to send it into the world. Can you feel comfortable doing it?
I know I am almost there. Yeah there are areas I would love to punch up, clean up, and cut down. But do I want to spend another five years on this novel? I have already spent ten.
Soon, real soon. It will not be perfect, some one somewhere will find a mistake, but it will be not embarrassing stage for me.
It's time to write for the reader and not for the editor.